When logic fails to serve, and coaxing no longer works, seek help
Schools for troubled teens do so much more than just school. One of the problems in dealing with troubled teens is that they have lost interest. Schools, for troubled teens, has become unimportant and, therefore, getting an education has lost its importance. Grades have failed, credits have been lost. The loss of interest is only the tip of the iceberg; there is so much about other behavior that has gone beyond control. To put your son back on track, a strong balance between work responsibilities, academic responsibilities and appropriate behavior all have to be addressed together.
We would give anything for our children
We give our sons, and our daughters, everything they need and about everything they want. They are surrounded by electronic devices, computers, games, and just about everything they see their friends have. So, why is it that no matter how much we shower them with love and material things, some remain so rebellious, contentious and hostile? We get ourselves caught up in what we think is best for our children. We provide computers so they can do well in school and yet the grades hit bottom with a resounding thud while the computer just becomes another distraction. Often it seems like there doesn't seem to be anything a parent can do correctly.
Sometimes there is nothing left for a parent to give
What we don't realize is that one doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the other any more than taking daily vitamins automatically keep you from getting a cold. Sometimes, a child's behavior does not evolve in conformance, for whatever reason, with what is required to succeed in social situations. When we associate behavior too much with material things we only start a tug-of-war with resentment building on both sides. If you are at that point, then you need to ask for help.
Knowing when to seek help is part of good parenting
When the behavior of your son drastically changes, his school work—once good—turns to failing grades accompanied by discipline problems, and nothing you say or threaten seems to have any effect, it is time for you to call for intervention. Balance in life is essential for everyone, but for teen boys, it can mean the difference between success and failure as a productive adult. Where Arivaca Boys Ranch can help you is by discovering and dealing with the underlying problems that created the sudden change in behavior.
Motivation needs to change
Motivation in school is usually based on completing the task in order to receive credit with the best possible scores. The motivation to complete the work is external—to please someone else. When that incentive no longer exists, troubled teen boys need to have a new center for motivation—inside them. Schools for troubled teens address that issue. Part of the responsibility training that is needed requires a person to accept responsibility for his successes and failures—a difficult thing to face. Once a student accepts that gaining a proper education is a need he has in order to succeed, then the formula for motivation and success changes. In a sense, the motivation must come from selfish but positive desires. That eliminates the need to struggle with others to see who will win that battle of wits. The struggle becomes irrelevant.
Specialized teaching techniques regain lost opportunities
Arivaca Boys Ranch hosts a fully-accredited high school curriculum and our purpose is to restore the good academics that have been lost during the struggle. Coupled with a setting that allows one-on-one tutoring to assure that academic success, teachers and counselors specialize in shifting the motivational needs to their proper location: within the student. Add to that one-on-one psychological and behavioral counseling, boys soon learn what behavior works for them and how their immediate past behavior has not. The combination of academic restoration programs with individual and group counseling teaches troubled teens to maintain their own positive atmosphere and attitude. They will begin to realize that their parents and teachers are not the enemy—ignorance is.
Equine therapy: uniquely suited to young boys
Another area that makes Arivaca Boys Ranch a unique place to get your teen back on track is the application of one of our specialties: equine therapy. If you are unfamiliar with horses, you may not realize the power of a horse to influence relationships and behavior in incredible ways. The boys learn work ethic, responsibility, assertiveness (rather than confrontation), and healthy, productive relationship skills. We use Arabian horses because their personalities and behavior is so similar to these teen boys. Because of that, they learn as much about themselves as they do the horses while working with them.
Finally, one of the key factors of success in the program is to re-engage parents in positive ways. By meeting and talking together, each learns a mutual respect of the other and that understanding helps them continue to build lasting, positive relationships with each other.
Arivaca Boys Ranch provides the knowledge and skill to regain the precious balance of work, academics, and self-control responsibilities. In addition to that, Arivaca Boys Ranch can serve as an academic oasis where grades and credits can be restored before it is too late. The best part is that Arivaca Boys Ranch can return your son to you with renewed patience and interest in those things that will make him a stronger and more productive man. Call us toll-free at (877) 88-MY-SON (877-886-9766) for information about how to get your son back on track. You can also contact us on our website where we can provide you any further information you want. We want to help you and your son.
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